Tips for guys to make your girl feel special

February 28, 2013 at 3:44 pm (hOt mama, life) (, , )

When a girl is giving signs that she needs attention. Give it to her. What is so hard to make her a priority once in a while. It’s not like she is asking for a diamond ring or material things. She is only asking for your time and attention..which means that she misses you (that is a good sign)

Give full attention to her when you are with her. Make her feel like you only hv eyes on her. Look her deeply in her eyes and listen to her.nobody else in d world matter should more than her at that point of time.

Remember the small things that makes her happy. She would be surprised and touched if you do.It will make her feel that she is important to you for you to remember the little details about her and not to only pay attention to her boobs +_+

Learn to pick up hints. Girls love to drop hints because we are weird like that :p which again..most of the guys are usually too ignorant to notice or choose not to take any action. Be more observant. You guys would be surprised how much this skill could help u get far in a relationship.
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I’m watching you (freaky music playing at the background) :P

February 25, 2013 at 4:18 am (hOt mama, life, work) (, , , , )

I like to observe people. One of my favorite past time actually 😛 It is really fun and you can do it anywhere and anytime of the day. Plus, it has its advantages. You can learn a lot about a person if you really observe their behavior  they way they talk, body language and much more.

Recent discoveries about my friends/acquaintances.

1. They will update status regarding their birthdays indirectly really early of their birthday morning. For example, “Thank god for another year” (If you really want to thank god, you can do it personally or during your prayers) or “I am officially adding one year to my live” or something like that. Reason? My take is that MOST of them (not all) want to inform their social friends that their birthday is today and hoping for wishes would come flooding in. Just in case their friends missed out the automated birthday notifications. Which translates to > Attention Seeker 😛 Nothing wrong with that, nothing wrong with wanting people to wish you or share your special day with everyone. I’m just saying that people tend to do that in order to receive attention. So if you see your friend update their status as such, if you’re kind hearted, just give them what they want. Just wish them publicly in the the social networking sites like what they expect you to do when you have read their status.

2. I have this circle of friends, who will in a way compete with each other on who have the most information. They take pride or have the satisfaction of knowing more about an issue or a topic. It is so funny because when you really observe them, you can see that they will try to top up each other with their information on the issue and the best part is, neither one is hearing the other’s information/input. So in a way you have a bunch of people talking to themselves about the information they already know. +_+ What you can do in a situation like this is to observe and absorb all the information that is being ‘shared’ and compile them. Coz chances are, these guys will only remember what they themselves said 😛

The world is full of unique and interesting people..You just have to look hard enough to see weirdness in them 😛

 

 

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Tah apa apa

February 21, 2013 at 3:46 am (life)

Kalau dia citer…nak pulak kita bagi full attention..with proper/specific response that you want…kalau tak..reti pulak emo or angin..

Kalau wa citer…kadang kadang pandang pun idak…dgr pun acuh tak acuh..tah btul btul dgr ke idak..sibuk sgt laa macam dia sorang je sibuk dalam dunia ni.. Dah la kalau nak harap dia tanya..tak slalu la..it’s all about dia je..

Yg heran kalau org lain…pandai pulak bagi full attention bila diorang cakap..

Sekian..

Dari manusia yg mungkin hidupnya terlalu bosan atau tidak penting sampai org takde effort langsung nak dgr luahan cerita dia

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Do you know how to really Listen?

February 14, 2013 at 6:06 am (hOt mama, life) (, )

Few weeks ago, I bumped into my friends in a coffee shop and decide to hang out for a while. What’s interesting that I have noticed about my friend’s husband is that when other people talk, he listens to people with full attention and whole heartedly. It makes the one who tells the story feel appreciated and it really feel nice when people are really interested in listening to what you have to say.

When someone talk and you don’t pay attention or just ignores them, it makes them feel unimportant and it will hurt their feelings. When a person decided to tell you something, you have to appreciate that they choose you to be their listener. It means that they trusted you enough to share their stories/problems/concerns/happiness with you. Be grateful that you are that special person. People do not ask much. Sometimes you don’t even have to give your advice or comments. All they want is some attention and empathy from the you at that point of time.

I have always considered myself a good listener but I admit sometimes I do tend to tune out when I know that person is the type of person who talks endlessly and described every detail of the story which does not interest me. But I am trying to improve to be a better listener for the people I love especially my daughter.

The more you listen, the more you understand the person.

How to be a better listener:

1. Put away your phone/laptop when having conversation (yea I know it is really hard but do it anyway!) But if it is really important, pardon yourself for a while and then settle it and continues your conversation with the person. Unless it is your children, then prioritize them all the time 😛

2. Make warm eye contact with the person

3. Give feedback once in a while (not just standing there like a pole throughout the conversation) :P…

4. ..But do not interrupt at every single sentence of the person. You might get bitch slapped 😛

5. Learn the art of empathy – empathy means “the ability to project one’s personality into another person and more fully understand that person”

6. Do not judge the person when they share their worries/concerns/problems with you. Comments and feedback is ok but do not judge them

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If I do not cook, am I a bad person/mother?

February 12, 2013 at 4:45 am (hOt mama, life) (, , )

Why do people just won’t leave me alone? What did I have ever done to you? Did I hurt your feelings in some sort of way? Did I ever talked bad about you behind your back? I have been nothing but nice to you.

To dislike/talk bad and say I can’t be a good mother me just because I am not a housewife material is pure bullshit. I know you guys (not you my readers..well maybe some of you) love to cook and is a photocopy of Martha Stewart where all food must be from your own sweat and blood. The home must be perfectly tidy..prim and proper. I respect you and good for you. But I AM NOT LIKE THAT. I am not domesticated. Sure my mom try to ask me to cook at some point of my life but sorry. I just dn’t have the passion to cook every single day..and every single night..I do cook sometimes but it is because i love making pasta and baking..but not everyday. And also…to say bad things about me is one thing..but to talk bad about my mother and hurt her feelings..saying that she did not raise me properly. Well, you have loss all my respect for you. even if you are older..and cook and whatever..

Truth is..I prefer to enjoy life. Why do i torture myself to cook every single day if I don’t like it and in the end it would make me stressed, tired and most probably it won’t taste nice as well..If I can afford it, why not just buy and save all the trouble. It would make everyone happier. Same goes as household. Iam not a perfectionist. I prefer not to go all mad and crazy if my house is not in ‘showhouse’ condition where everything is in place..it makes my daugther and everyone else be more relax and laid back in the house. They do not have to worry if the cushion is out of place, few crumbs fell on the floor (you can always clean it up afterwords), the bed is not like ‘military’ perfect. We are all human after all.

I am not saying that I won’t change in future, but I do ask for people to respect my current ways of living. I do not go around telling you how do you live your life. People who are living with me are fine with this arrangement so far, so who the hell are you to say otherwise?

Ouh yeah…for those who made those comments to me..it is like calling a kettle calling the pot black. Try looking at your own daughters before looking at other peoples fault ya? 😉

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Random act of kindess

February 8, 2013 at 8:49 am (life) (, , )

Recently there is a campaign to do good deeds to people/strangers named #gobeyond and I think it is being organised by Astro. I loved the campaign especially the advertisement because i really believe that kind gestures goes a long way. Do kindness without expecting any in return and In Sha Allah, Allah will return the kindness.

But, personally I also believe, before doing kindness to strangers, we should begin the habit with people that we love and are close to us 🙂 its a bit weird if you prioritize people that you barely know before your friends and family.

Well, for me..I started by sending my lovely delivery basket of flowers. In the card I just wrote her name (not mama coz then she would have easily guest whether it’s either from me or my sis) and a message “Have a nice day :)”

I think yesterday when the flowers was delivered, it really made her day. And she is still wondering who sent her the flowers. (I have to told her a white lie that I didn’t know who sent it :P) Love the feeling of seeing my mom happy with the flowers 😀

p/s: my mom is not that computer savvy and she doesn’t know my blog so there’s no way she will find out the flower is from me 🙂

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